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Hello loves!

So I find myself wanting to do something like this because, not only do I have a lot of random thoughts or advice, I need a hobby. That's my least favorite question that people ask me, “what are your hobbies?” Ummm, I’m a wife, mom of three and I have three labs.. So all of that usually takes up my “free time.” Don’t get me wrong, I love being all of those things, but that doesn't stop me from wondering, who am I? What do I do for me? Shower? Wash my face when I feel like it? Occasionally throw on some eye masks? Drive through town on occasion without my kids with the windows down? That is where this thought started. Then the random thoughts come into play. Today, those thoughts are about snack prepping for my kids, how my black lab puppy Bear loves these mats I bought on Instagram and the Tinico floor cleaner that I love. I need to share these things! But, as a woman, wife, mother and friend, I know that life isn’t always as simple as snacks and floor cleaners. I want a space that I can share little tidbits of thoughts that I have or I find myself thinking about situations that have come up in my life and it  may help others. I have been incredibly blessed with wonderful family and friends that always make comments like, “ you always know what to say” or “that shit is funny, you should make a tik tok about it.” So, here I am lol! I promise to share the good, the bad, the ugly, the funny, the gross things that women and mothers experience. May I also mention that I am ADHD so there may be plenty of random thoughts. Like, right now I'm curious how to get across to you all that I’m trying to be funny about something without saying “lol” all the time or not having emojis to get that across to you. Maybe there are emojis on here somewhere and I just don’t know how to use them yet because I don’t know much about google docs or this fancy laptop my husband got me lol! Who am I kidding, I am a late term millennial, I don’t enjoy that fact because I am not like the younger end of the millennial group. Anyway, my extent of “tech knowledge” is the few things that Apple hasn't changed much since the iphone was released and I hate that Microsoft is so expensive because I still know how to use it. I do aspire to be more tech savvy as two of my three kids are 9 year old twins. My oldest is now 20, she was 12 when we started co-parenting with her, that's another story for another day. But when she came into our lives on a more full time basis, the twins were 2, I was 27 married to a man that I had been with since I was 20, and I knew NOTHING about snapchat and parental controls. Not to mention the mountain of crap that our kids can do on gadgets if we don’t protect them from it. See, there I go on a random thought spiral (insert crazy eye emoji). Let me try to get back on track! Before I dive more into what I’m about to say, please do not think that my life is perfect or cookie cutter by any means. If you know me personally, you know ya girl is a train wreck at best! I have personally experienced a lot in my 35 years of life and I have sat next to many friends and family members as I lend a shoulder or ear during their hard times. I don’t have the greatest memory since having covid 4 years ago, but I do manage to remember what I’ve been through and tried to help my friends though. How that made them feel. How that made me feel. What worked and what didn’t. I often get told that I talk too much, to stay in my lane or no one asked you. I am working on all of that and trying to just keep walking or watch them fall on their face, but that's not my strong suit. I don’t really know why I insert my unwarranted opinions or thoughts. My oldest would probably have a lot to say about it, but I’m working on just smiling and saying that's nice babe or that sounds fun. But lord she makes it hard (insert melting smiling face emoji). I have learned, that as a mom, I want to catch my kids before they fall and protect them from what could happen. But I have also learned that isn't the best way for them to learn. One of the many things that I learned in my many years of therapy, was the best thing that we can do for our kids is to let them fail and always be there for them. It's best for that to happen while they still live with you of course, but sometimes we don't have control over that either. Another story for another day. Something else that I want from this page is to empower women. More often than you would ever think, or you may know, that no matter how many people we have in our lives, all too often we feel alone. There are many times that I feel like I am in a room full of people, screaming at the top of my lungs, but no one can hear me. I know that communication is key to everything and the most important thing in any relationship, but how can you communicate if you feel like they won’t understand or you’ll seem ridiculous if you say it out loud. Not here. Don’t ever feel ridiculous! Even if you start here before going to the person that really needs to hear it. Keeping it all in will only continue to hurt everyone, and you the most. I know most of us have a little girl gang or at least one person that is your sounding board, but are they honest with you? WIll they tell you what you want to hear or what you need to hear? Honesty is something that came to me later in life when I learned its power from a very dear friend of mine. If you don't feel comfortable posting about it, message me and I will share my thoughts and allow others to post theirs as well. Don’t worry, I won’t say your name if you don’t want me to. This is where again I will say, don’t be an asshole. That helps no one and will get you removed. There are always nice or polite ways to say things that people need to hear. Even if you start with, “I mean this with all the love” or “all do respect.” Please also be open to hearing what others have to say. If you get offended or feel attacked by what I or someone else says, it may be because you know it's true and you aren't ready to accept it. Again, that's another post or another day. Regardless of what is said, it should always be meant to help build someone up and not break them down. I also want this page to be a place for “all of the things that instagram made you buy.” We always see these, what seem to be, amazing products that look too good to be true. Are they or aren’t they? Do you love it or will you leave it? Also, recipes and life hacks! We could all use a new dish to try or something that actually does what it says it will do. I feel like I could go on forever but I find myself coming up with more topics for other days or when I have writer's block. Yes, even though I love to write and have ADHD, I get writer's block (insert crazy eyed emoji). I also know that we only have so much free time and I don’t want to be too long winded or boring (insert laughing emoji). So between this post and the next, I will find out how to add emojis and try to be better with keeping my thoughts together. But maybe not on the latter, it's who I am and it keeps you on your toes (insert laughing emojis). Until next time, keep killing it mamas!